Consenting to one behaviour does not obligate you to consent to any other behaviour. Consenting on one occasion also does not obligate you to consent on another occasion.

Consenting means only at this particular time, you would like to engage in this particular sexual behaviour.

How to determine consent?

To determine if someone is giving consent, you must be able to answer two questions:

1. Does the person want to give consent?
2. Is the person capable of giving consent?

What if the person does not/cannot give consent?

• Above all, if your partner ever says no during sex or asks you to stop, you must stop immediately. Saying no should never be treated as a game or as a signal that someone is “playing hard to get.” Simply put, “NO” means “NO” in any sexual encounter.
• Certain circumstances make it impossible for a person to legally give consent. These circumstances make it impossible for a person to legally give consent. These circumstances usually involve cases in which a person is not mentally or physically capable of choosing whether to engage in sexual behaviour. For example, if someone is drunk or high on drugs, then that person cannot give consent. This means that even if someone seems eager to engage in sexual behaviour, doing so can legally be considered sexual assault or rape if he or she is intoxicated.
• Age can also determine whether a person can legally consent to certain sexual behaviours, such as intercourse or oral sex. The age at which a person can give consent varies by country. In the UK age to consent is 16.

Having sex with someone under the age of consent is legally considered a crime called statutory rape, even if the person under the age of consent says that she or he wanted the sexual behaviour to take place

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